Targets: Which Do You Hit?

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One of the wonderful things about human life is having choice. We – or at least those who live in countries and societies where free will and human rights exist -can decide which path we want to walk down in life. Do I want to take myself down path A or path B, since both will take me to completely different places in my life?

Using myself as an example, I am currently stuck at the crossroads; I am aiming my metaphorical arrow at a set of targets without being quite sure which I want to hit. For all young people leaving school and education, it can be difficult to know which is the right choice to make with so many options laid out before them. I had already decided to remove my ‘university target’ from the line-up, after much deliberation, yet it still lingers in the back of my mind, along with the debate of whether or not it was the right decision for me.

That can be the issue with removing a goal or a target: you remain unsure if it really was worth keeping. Surely if it was worthy enough to become an option, why leave it and put it away? What makes it more difficult is when other people stand behind you and try to help point you in the right direction.Whilst some may be helpful in assisting your choice, a conflict of opinions surrounding you can complicate things. The only simple thing to take from this is to take opinions into account but only lightly: at the end of the day, the person holding the arrow of your future is yourself.

When presented with difficult choices to make and an uncertainty of which route to follow, sometimes you have to rely on your instincts. Often people are lucky enough to have a feeling about what’s right for them, knowing deep in their heart what makes them happy. Even if it turns out to be a mistake, what’s the harm in trying?

The option to have choice should be valued. The difficult task in deciding where to go next, where to aim, can drive you up the wall, and cause varying amounts of stress and sleepless nights.

Even so, the choice belongs to you. You can pick your destiny, and take yourself where you think you will benefit and be happy the most. I may be struggling to decide what career I want to do, and whether or not I really want to study further (at least within the next five years), but there is still excitement that there are so many opportunities laid out before me, so many targets I can hit. All I need is time to think and a belief that at the end of the day, I will know in my heart exactly what I want to do.

 

Daily Prompt: Relax

via Daily Prompt: Relax

AKA HOW TO DEAL WITH PANIC ATTACKS

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 A deep breath in.

 A deep breath out.

 Surrounding myself in the room.

 Becoming grounded.

Panic attacks are often a struggle for people to deal with, with many of the techniques used to calm the body and mind failing after trial and error. The only way I knew that actually worked both in theory and during the real thing was to ground myself.

It’s all about keeping both your body and mind grounded, by ‘surrounding’ yourself in everything around you and making yourself a part of it. When having a panic attack, it can be easy to let your mind and imagination take you away, thus making the whole situation last longer whilst failing to resolve the issue in your mind. Instead, the first thing you do is look around you and take it in. Where are you? Look at the objects. Who are you with? This is where you are – whatever is worrying you is not present*. Take a moment to embrace where you are and that you are you.

This usually helps to relax my body along with slow, deep breathing, so taking a minute to yourself to just breathe and let yourself become grounded can help a lot. Once you are calm, then you can start to slowly take in whatever has set you off and help it to make sense in your mind. Talk to someone. Let your thoughts and feelings be heard by those close to you. Get an outsider’s opinion to see the angles you can’t see alone.

Once your body is relaxed, your mind can also relax, as the two are often connected during panics (as demonstrated by the physical symptoms of sweating, feeling sick, a fast heartbeat, etc.). By calming one, you can soothe the other, and soon the panic will be over and you can face the anxiety in a prepared state rather than a panicked one.

 

*it was usually things that weren’t present or physically with me (or even a physical thing – just an idea) that triggered off my panic attacks.